Reformation at Epiphany on October 28, 2007

Grace, mercy and especially peace are yours through Jesus Christ, who forgives your transgressions, covers your sins, and removes your guilt. Amen.

Psalm 32:1-5 Blessed is he whose transgressions are forgiven, whose sins are covered. 2 Blessed is the man whose sin the LORD does not count against him and in whose spirit is no deceit. 3 When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long. 4 For day and night your hand was heavy upon me; my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer.  5 Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, "I will confess my transgressions to the LORD"-- and you forgave the guilt of my sin.

Getting past the guilt of your past

John is now a pastor in Illinois . He tells the story of how he and his wife once traded in their old Volkswagon Super Beetle for their first piece of new furniture: a mauve sofa. The man at the furniture store warned them not to get it when he found out they had small children. "You don't want a mauve sofa," he advised. "Get something the color of dirt." But with the naive optimism of young parenthood they said, "We know how to handle our children. Give us the mauve sofa."

From that moment on everyone knew the number one rule in the house. Don't sit on the mauve sofa. Don't touch the mauve sofa. Don't play around the mauve sofa. Don't eat on, breathe on, look at, or think about the mauve sofa. It was like the forbidden tree in the Garden of Eden. "On every other chair in the house you may freely sit, but upon this sofa, the mauve sofa, you may not sit, for in the day you sit thereupon, you shall surely die."

Then came the Fall. One day, there appeared on the mauve sofa a stain. A red stain. A red jelly stain.

So John's wife, who had chosen the mauve sofa and adored it, lined up their three children in front of it: Laura, age four, Mallory, two-and-a-half, and Johnny, six months. "Do you see that, children?" she asked. "That's a stain. A red stain. A red jelly stain. The man at the sofa store says it is not coming out. Not forever. Do you know how long forever is children? That's how long we're going to stand here until one of you tells me who put the stain on the mauve sofa."

The two-and-a-half year old Mallory was the first to break. With trembling lips and tear-filled eyes she said, "Laura did it." Laura passionately denied it. Then there was silence, for the longest time. No one said a word. John, the dad, knew they wouldn't, for they had never seen their mother so upset. He knew they wouldn't because they knew that if they did they would spend eternity in the time-out chair. He knew they wouldn't because he, the dad, was the one who put the red jelly stain on the sofa, and he wasn't saying anything!

John remained silent. And yet, every time he sat on the jelly-stained mauve sofa, he felt guilty. He didn’t want to confess to his wife. Better that the kids take the punishment. Yet his silence was not the answer. It was only another lie. The more he sat on the sofa, the more he remained silent, the worse he felt.

Things haven’t changed much. Adam and Eve remained silent about their sin … and hid from God. Cain remained silent … and hid his brother’s murdered body. Joseph’s brothers sold him into slavery and insinuated to their father that Joseph had been killed by a wild animal. They remained silent … for 20 years. King David committed adultery and murder. He remained silent … for over a year without confession to God or his people.

Joseph’s brothers believed that everything bad that happened to them was punishment for their sin of selling Joseph into slavery. Their guilty conscience ate at them. Judas betrayed Jesus to the enemies. He felt that was an unforgivable sin and in his guilt he committed suicide. David was spiritually, emotionally, and physically drained from keeping his sin a secret: “When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night [Lord] your hand was heavy upon me; my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer.”

Things haven’t changed much. Martin Luther’s guilt drove him to become a monk, to fast, to beat and whip himself, to pray on his knees on the cold, hard monastery floor. Luther’s guilt was no different than the guilt felt by Christians in the Middle Ages. And the church of that time was no help. The church offered paying of indulgences or visiting relics to remove sin and guilt.

Things haven’t changed much. How many of you are silent liars like Pastor John, Joseph’s brothers or King David? Your face turns red when an old friend reminds you of how drunk you once got in high school. Your eyes close and you shake your head when you think about how you lost your cool with your daughter and really yelled at her. You pretend that everything is okay between you and your spouse even though you have that anger or argument or adultery in your past. Or did you do something years ago that you just can’t seem to forget about but just don’t want to talk about?

How do you get past your guilt from your past?

You know what they say; guilt is the gift that keeps on giving. Guilt is good when it drives us into sorrow over sin and into the arms of a forgiving God. Unfortunately, that is all guilt was meant to do. It was never meant to linger.

Lingering guilt not only traps you. It kills your spirit. Shallow religious “experts” think that a luscious helping of lingering guilt is good. But God doesn’t agree. Guilt doesn’t bring us closer to him; it drives us from him. It ushers in ulcers and sleepless nights. We begin to wonder if that chronic cramp or that broken bone is God’s way of letting us have it. Maybe he’s giving us what we deserve. Guilt destroys people and families. It even kills. Have you had any lately? A lot of people do…

People deal with their guilt in different ways. Maybe we try to purge our guilt by making up for it, like the Christians in the Middle Ages. If only we throw a few more bucks in the plate, maybe we won’t feel so bad about cheating on our taxes. Maybe we try to keep our lives so busy that we don’t have time to contemplate our guilt.

Some of us feel like our guilt is weighing us down, as it did with David. So we end up dealing with others in an unhealthy way. Like the divorced parent who indulges his/her children in order to compensate for the guilt that they feel for the breakup of the marriage. Or we feel guilty about not spending enough time with our kids. Our spouse leaves a mess on the table and we blow our top. The mess is no big deal, but the guilt needs to come out somewhere.

Or maybe we try to punish ourselves for our past sins, as Luther did. We feel so guilty that we make ourselves physically sick. Depression can be a form of self-inflicted punishment. The ultimate form of self-punishment is suicide, like Judas. Suicide is now the number one killer of college students and the number two killer of high school students. Why? Because people do not know how to get past the guilt of their past.

We keep reviewing in our minds the things we wish we could change, but are never going to change. Guilt cannot change the past just like worry cannot change the future. It just makes today miserable.

People often answer lingering guilt with greater guilt. Christians are good at this. We know that Christ has taken away our sin. Our guilt has been removed. Yet we still feel guilty. We know we are forgiven, but we don’t feel forgiven. So now we feel guilty because we feel guilty.

We have to see that we can be our own worst enemy. We cannot bury our guilt through activity, deny it through entertainment or get rid of it through destructive behavior. Beating yourself up doesn’t fix your pain. It just reopens the wound. Through Christ, we can find the relief we’re looking for. Jesus Christ was nailed to a cross so you could stop nailing yourself to a cross. Jesus Christ was crucified so you could stop crucifying yourself. Ask God to help you stop hurting yourself.

God knows what you have done. Every thought you’ve thought. Every word you’ve spoken. He knows when you disobey your parents. He hears when you use dirty language. He reads your mind when you think vengeful thoughts about your spouse or boss. Don’t even try to hide it. Just say it. Admit that you are a filthy sinner.

David felt relieved after he had finally confessed and repented of his sin to God. “I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, ‘I will confess my transgressions to the LORD’-- and you forgave the guilt of my sin. Blessed is he whose transgressions are forgiven, whose sins are covered. Blessed is the man whose sin the LORD does not count against him and in whose spirit is no deceit.”

God doesn’t stay silent about your guilt. “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” (Romans 8:1) Any time you read the word “therefore”, you should ask yourself, “What’s it there for?” The first seven chapters of Romans lay it all out: holy God, sinful man, coming wrath, perfect Savior, Jesus Christ crucified and risen, made right by grace, made holy through faith. Then Paul says, in view of all that: "Therefore there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus." That’s the essence of who Jesus is and what He did. That’s the central, foundational message of God’s love to the world. God condemned Christ, so the guilty may go free.

When Luther finally learned and believed that his sin and guilt was removed by Jesus, he announced: “I felt myself to be reborn and to have gone through the open doors into paradise.” Once the Holy Spirit had led Luther to believe and cherish the grace that removed guilt, the Christian Church would not be the same. Into the dark, dismal, terrifying times of the Middle Ages, sprung light, life, and joy eternal. Luther and his fellow Reformers now not only preached sin but also mercy, judgment but also forgiveness, guilt but also grace.

Jesus doesn’t accept you under protest. He doesn’t love you because he has to. He doesn’t want you because you feel “sufficiently” guilty. Jesus loves you simply because he loves you. He loves you in spite of your sordid past. He accepts you despite your dumb choices. He forgives you for your foolish years.  

How do you get past the guilt of your past? First, do not remain silent about your sins. Kneel before the cross of Christ. Give him your sins. Every one of them. Name your sins out loud to God. The Bible tells us that personal confession is a necessary part of healing the open wound of guilt. “If we confess our sins, [God] is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9) Confession is God’s way of getting the poisons out.  It’s like draining a wound.  It cuts through all the pretending, denial, and defense.

Then listen to what God has to say about forgiveness and the removal of your guilt. Scripture tells us that our Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in love. He does not treat us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities. For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is His love for those who fear Him. As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us, through the perfect obedience and willing suffering and death of Christ Jesus, our Savior and Lord. Out of his great love for mankind, God has sent his only Son into this world to pay the price for our sins. He also assures us that where there is confession of sins and true repentance in the heart, there is also forgiveness through faith in Christ.

Do not remain silent about your guilt, for God does not remain silent about his forgiveness. “I will forgive your wickedness and will remember your sins no more.” God has already forgiven you. Now it’s time to get busy forgiving yourself. I know, it’s difficult to look at yourself, thinking, “If I hadn’t been such an idiot to begin with, this wouldn’t have happened. If I hadn’t been sleeping around, I wouldn’t have gotten pregnant. If I hadn’t been drinking so much, I wouldn’t have ruined my life. If I hadn’t been so self-centered, I wouldn’t have missed my daughter’s childhood. Maybe God can live with me, but I can’t live with myself.”

Don’t be so arrogant. Are you greater than the Creator? If God doesn’t even remember it, why is it still spooking around in your brain? Throw the demons in the basement and pound the door shut with three bloody nails from the cross — for good. Jesus, and only Jesus, is the way to move from lingering and lamenting to learning and living.

Whenever the sins and guilt in your rearview mirror hold you back, look to see the cross of Calvary in that mirror. Jesus died for those sins, so you don't have to. Let them go, and don't visit them again. With Christ, and only with Christ, you can get past the guilt of your past. Amen.